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    Asalaam walikum

    Im Rozina khan from Unied States... I jst joined this forum and saw everyone posts so thouht being in Friendship Forum i might get some help from there.

    Mujhe nahi maloom meri zindagi kahan ja rahi hae aur meh samaj nahi pa rahi ke mujhe kia karna chahiye...

    This is my Story...
    When i was 14, in pak, I use to love one of my cuzn in pak and i never told him and was jst used to love him by jst staring him. never talk abt my feelings with him.....

    Then i moved to usa and left everything start my scool and was trying my best to forget him... and for that i started talking on internet with random boys and met one guy and fell in love wid him and i thought i forget my cuzn.. was really happy with dis internet guy and moved on in life with him..... den one day dis internet guy reaveald all abt his lies he been telling me for years like 3 years and when i fond out everytihng he wasn't muslim he was sikh. hindu but lived in london with his family... so even if i wana keep my friendship that love i used to love has gone... he used to talk abt romantic stuff and i was too bcz i was too attached wid him and i was really in love with dis internet guy but now when i know i cn't marry him and he also react as hes bored of me so we still talk but not like before.. i forgav him for lying and everything and moved on wid him but that lies and everyting is not easy to forget... i can't feel love with him anymore and been months im jst thining abt my cuzn and he doesnt talk wid me cuz in my family we dun really talk wid cuzns in boys and we are not that close... if i talk wid my cuzn he will think strange. and if i don't talk wid him den how im gona spend my whole life with this internet guy who is not even loving me anymore and can't even marry me and played with my feelings and jst said Sorry to me?

    I really need your pple advice...
    Thanks
    Rozina

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    welcum 2 SD rozina....


    after hearing all dis...i ll jus say tht forget da lier.....n think it wasnt love....coz love yeh sab nai hota....it was only attachement nufin elz.....n he dont deserve u aswell....us ko us k jesi he mil jaye gi kisi din.....yeh socho keh ager tum ais se b kahin agay pohanch jati or phir tumhirn truth pata chalta....thn??.....wot can u do? nufin....

    ab pata chal....Allah ka shuker ada karo....or dua kiya karo....zindagi main ab agay jo b ho Allah teri raza or tere hukam se ho......or sab acha ho......jo mere liye behter hai wohi mujay ata ker de...beshak keh tu sab kch jannay wala hai....Ameen

    tu bas zada se zada darood shareef parha karien......Allah talah dil ko sakoon ata kare ga or sab kch acha ker de ga.....Apne hukam se InshaAllah

    or jo ap ne apne cuzn ka likha....ager wo acha larka hai......ap ko lagta hai keh ap ik achi zindagi us k saath guzar sakti hain......tu apne ghar walon se ya us larkay se baat karien,,,,,baki jo Allah ka manzoor howa wohi ho ga.....

    Allah apni raza apne hukam se ap k saath wohi kare jo ap k liye acha or behter ho.....or sab ko aqal samhj or hidayat de....Ameen suma Ameen
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    Quote Originally Posted by ~*Rano*~ View Post
    welcum 2 SD rozina....


    after hearing all dis...i ll jus say tht forget da lier.....n think it wasnt love....coz love yeh sab nai hota....it was only attachement nufin elz.....n he dont deserve u aswell....us ko us k jesi he mil jaye gi kisi din.....yeh socho keh ager tum ais se b kahin agay pohanch jati or phir tumhirn truth pata chalta....thn??.....wot can u do? nufin....

    ab pata chal....Allah ka shuker ada karo....or dua kiya karo....zindagi main ab agay jo b ho Allah teri raza or tere hukam se ho......or sab acha ho......jo mere liye behter hai wohi mujay ata ker de...beshak keh tu sab kch jannay wala hai....Ameen

    tu bas zada se zada darood shareef parha karien......Allah talah dil ko sakoon ata kare ga or sab kch acha ker de ga.....Apne hukam se InshaAllah

    or jo ap ne apne cuzn ka likha....ager wo acha larka hai......ap ko lagta hai keh ap ik achi zindagi us k saath guzar sakti hain......tu apne ghar walon se ya us larkay se baat karien,,,,,baki jo Allah ka manzoor howa wohi ho ga.....

    Allah apni raza apne hukam se ap k saath wohi kare jo ap k liye acha or behter ho.....or sab ko aqal samhj or hidayat de....Ameen suma Ameen
    Thank you So Much Rani for replying

    Ap bht achi hae aur bht achi batein karti hae... Mera dil khush ho gaya ap ka msg perh ker.. ALLAH APKO HAMESHA KHUSH RAKHE AAMEEN!

    ji meh apki baat ko samaj rahi hoon lekin ek prb hae jis se meh darti hoon...... is larke ne mujhse maaphi mangi aur bht sorry kaha... meh hoon toh aakhir insaan aur uski dost yeh sab sochne ke baat meh ne use maaph kar diya.... lekin ab prb yeh hae k woh mujhse kehta hae ke agar meh ne use chor dia toh woh apni jaan de dega...aur meh use personally mili nahi hoon... agar usne aisa kia toh meh kahin na kahin uski zimadaar ho jao gi aur as a friend i would never wish for him like dis... i want him to be happy in his life jst i wna move on wid him.... and ab toh humari baat cheet bhi kam ho gai hae.... we dun talk like we used to..jst like friendss........ so i can't really leave him but almost left him.....

    aur ek aur baat...mera cuzn bht acha hae.. aur bht zada respected hae... aur mujhe dar lagta hae us se baat karne se kio k woh mere brothers se bht attached hae aur agar meh ne use apni feelings bata di toh kahin yeh family prb na ban jaye aur woh in sab baton meh interested bhi nahi hae... he jst studying hard to become sumthing...and im also studying but at the same time i always go online on yahoo and he is available... i tried to talk wid him like 2 times so he make excuses that i hav work cya later.... or talk to u later.... phir baat nahi ki khud se...but he wished me on my bday.... i wonder if he feel same or not...cuz he got his bz life and i never interfered in his life.... i duno if he love sumone or not as he hav same age as mine 21.... so part of studying im jst waiting for him and im not even sure if he will come to me or not............. i never shared abt him to anyone in family.... i dun think he knows iloved him ever.........

    But thanks for praying so much for me... INSHALLAH APKI DUAYEIN MERE KAAM AAYE GI... and i will for sure pray durud sharif to feel better thankss thanks a lot...............

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    thnx alot keh ap ko meri baatien achi lagien....

    ais per main yeh kehna chahti keh......dekho...maafi mang lenay se insaan pak saaf nai ho jata...jo ik dafa jhoot bol sakta hai......wo kabhi b bol sakta hai.......wo b us ne jhoot tab bola jab wo kehta tha keh he is in love wid u.....tu us main us ne jhoot bola tu....wot u expect 4rm him nxt...? us ki baaton main na aoo....

    or dosri baat....koi b kisi k liye nai marta....yeh zehan se nikal do keh us ne khud ko kch ker liya tu all.....sab ++++++ hai.....us ne kaha he dont love u sab jhot tha n all.....tu y wud he ll giv his lyf jus 4 u? y? socho......or payar hota b.....phir b koi b kisi k liye nai marta....marna ya apni jaan khud lena koi asaan kaam nai hai....or waisay b jis Insaan ki Allah ne jitni zindagi likhi hai us ne wo pori ker k he ais dunia se jana hai....Zindagi mout Allah k haath main hai or wo tab he ati hai Jab Allah talah chahta hai...kisi insaan k bas main marna jeena hota...tu koi b insaan na marta......

    ais liye yeh sab fazool ki childish baatien hain keh mar jaon ga or jaan de doon ga n bla bla bla....nufin gonna happen trust me....or chalo mano ho b jata hai aisa...tu kaya? tum ne us ko kaha tha mar jao...ya tum ne us ko khud maar diya hai....? nai na...tu jo b wo kare ga wo totally us ka apna kasoor hoga.....or Allah ne us ki mout likhi hi waisay hogi...tu us ko waisi he ani thi...ais main kisi ka ya tumhara kaya kasoor howa phir?....so its all bull ++++ dont think about it....


    jahan tak u k cuzn ki baat hai tu......ur only 21...n u r studyin n he is studyin as well.....jus giv ur self sum tym n him as well.....but in mean tym jus try to do lill bit frndship wid him...so u can know him better n i ll also make easy 4 u 2 decide whetr u wnt him or not.....n u ll also know his reactions n all.....or i dont think k ager tum us se thori buht baat kerna shoro karo gi tu wo tumhare bhaiyon ya kisi ko batanay beth jaye ga keh wo muj se baat kerti hai...salam dua haal chaal puchna ya halki phulki study se related baat cheet kerna koi buri baat nai....wo b apne cuzn se.....so jus try.....

    yeh b ais liye...keh kabhi lyf main tum mor k yeh na socho keh...tum ne try nai ki us k liye......keh kash ager try kerti tu shayed mil jata wo.....so bas ik try ker k dekh lo.....


    baki sab Allah talah per chor do......or ais baat per stick raho keh...Allah talah ki raza k begair ik pata b nai hilta...tu ager Allah ki raza hoyi us ka hukam howa tu...wo zaroor tumhien milay ga...or ager usi ki raza usi ka hukam na howa tu dunia ki koi b cheez tumhien us se milwa nai sakti......so yaqeen rakho ais baat per...Allah per....or dil ki sachaiyon se try karo.....Allah zaroor madad kare ga InshaAllah talah......

    darood pak parhti raho...dil ko sakon milay ga...apne liye b dua karo or mere liye...
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    Quote Originally Posted by ~*Rano*~ View Post
    thnx alot keh ap ko meri baatien achi lagien....

    ais per main yeh kehna chahti keh......dekho...maafi mang lenay se insaan pak saaf nai ho jata...jo ik dafa jhoot bol sakta hai......wo kabhi b bol sakta hai.......wo b us ne jhoot tab bola jab wo kehta tha keh he is in love wid u.....tu us main us ne jhoot bola tu....wot u expect 4rm him nxt...? us ki baaton main na aoo....

    or dosri baat....koi b kisi k liye nai marta....yeh zehan se nikal do keh us ne khud ko kch ker liya tu all.....sab ++++++ hai.....us ne kaha he dont love u sab jhot tha n all.....tu y wud he ll giv his lyf jus 4 u? y? socho......or payar hota b.....phir b koi b kisi k liye nai marta....marna ya apni jaan khud lena koi asaan kaam nai hai....or waisay b jis Insaan ki Allah ne jitni zindagi likhi hai us ne wo pori ker k he ais dunia se jana hai....Zindagi mout Allah k haath main hai or wo tab he ati hai Jab Allah talah chahta hai...kisi insaan k bas main marna jeena hota...tu koi b insaan na marta......

    ais liye yeh sab fazool ki childish baatien hain keh mar jaon ga or jaan de doon ga n bla bla bla....nufin gonna happen trust me....or chalo mano ho b jata hai aisa...tu kaya? tum ne us ko kaha tha mar jao...ya tum ne us ko khud maar diya hai....? nai na...tu jo b wo kare ga wo totally us ka apna kasoor hoga.....or Allah ne us ki mout likhi hi waisay hogi...tu us ko waisi he ani thi...ais main kisi ka ya tumhara kaya kasoor howa phir?....so its all bull ++++ dont think about it....


    jahan tak u k cuzn ki baat hai tu......ur only 21...n u r studyin n he is studyin as well.....jus giv ur self sum tym n him as well.....but in mean tym jus try to do lill bit frndship wid him...so u can know him better n i ll also make easy 4 u 2 decide whetr u wnt him or not.....n u ll also know his reactions n all.....or i dont think k ager tum us se thori buht baat kerna shoro karo gi tu wo tumhare bhaiyon ya kisi ko batanay beth jaye ga keh wo muj se baat kerti hai...salam dua haal chaal puchna ya halki phulki study se related baat cheet kerna koi buri baat nai....wo b apne cuzn se.....so jus try.....

    yeh b ais liye...keh kabhi lyf main tum mor k yeh na socho keh...tum ne try nai ki us k liye......keh kash ager try kerti tu shayed mil jata wo.....so bas ik try ker k dekh lo.....


    baki sab Allah talah per chor do......or ais baat per stick raho keh...Allah talah ki raza k begair ik pata b nai hilta...tu ager Allah ki raza hoyi us ka hukam howa tu...wo zaroor tumhien milay ga...or ager usi ki raza usi ka hukam na howa tu dunia ki koi b cheez tumhien us se milwa nai sakti......so yaqeen rakho ais baat per...Allah per....or dil ki sachaiyon se try karo.....Allah zaroor madad kare ga InshaAllah talah......

    darood pak parhti raho...dil ko sakon milay ga...apne liye b dua karo or mere liye...
    Ur welcome Rano ji, mujhe ap se mil kar bht khushi hui

    Yes u are right, its not in my hands if sumone die and im fully agree wid ur words... Jab tak ALLAH na chahe ek pata bhi nahi hil sakta.... meh ne bas use ek simple friendship rakhi hae jo na hone ke barabar hae.

    Actually
    Mujhe se ek bht bari galti hui thi recently jo meh ne yahan mention nahi kia... actually meh ne ek fake id banai thi facebook per jab mujhe internet guy ke bareh meh sab pata chal gaya toh meh apne cuzn ko miss karne lagi aur socha ke try karti hoon uski zindagi ke bareh meh kuch jane k liye... so i made fake id wid sara id and i started talking wid him...and became his nice friend only... we talk like 2 weeks and he was being very nice but then i realized im lying to him jst like that internet guy lied to me abt his identity and i was very scared, so i couldn't take that lie anymore and i told him that i was really bored so i thought to hav sum fun..so i made fake id to bother people so i talk wid u too.. and i think during that 2 weeks he was kind of liking me but didn't know that i was his cuzn cuz i lied abt my name as sara..... which i know i did wrong but at that time i was doing wat i was thinking right.... and was totally messed cuz of that internet guy couldn't thinking anytihng properly was jst doing.....

    Then when he found out first he was shocke and he even said like wese i was totaly flirt wid u and was laughing kind of embaraced but next day i sent him sorry card and said sorry to him lots of time and he was like im sorry but im not ur cuzn im ur cuzn friend...he told me his password and i was the one who was talking to u when u were being sara..... i knew its my cuzn who was trying to shw me that it wasnt him while i was making him fool wid sara id.... tu us ne poori baat palat di aur mujhe jhoot bola k woh mera cuzn nahi mera dost tha jise meh sara k naam se baat kar rahi thi kio k usne apna password share kia tha apne dost k sath aur kaha k woh interested nahi strange girls se facebook per baat karne k liye... so i said ok and we jst finish the matter dere.

    woh apne raste aur meh apne raste phir mere cuzn ne mujhse kabhi baat nahi ki..i told him not to share abt dis to my brothers so he didnt and then wejst both went quite.... aur is baat ko 2 months ho gaye hae.... he is not talking to me after that...and not me either.... not on fb not on yahoo..... ab meh available hoti hoon roz jab bhi use available dekhti hoon yahoo per lekin baat nahi karti warna woh soche ga ke meh uske peeche lagi hoon aur woh bht zada smart hae... uska mukabla karna mere liye bht zada mushkil hae.... bas yehi jhoot tha jo mujhse ho gaya lekin meh ne bht sorry kaha aur usne bas uske baad kabhi baat nahi ki aaj tak nahi...... i wonder woh mere bareh meh kuch sochta hae ya nahi aur kia woh kabhi mujhse khud se baat karega ya nhi..............

    yes i need ur help but i am not gona talk wid him dis time first... warna yeh saaf zahir ho jaye ga k meh uske peeche lagi hon and i can be in trouble i dun wana reaveal my love for him like that... i am not hurt now but if he found out and leave me i will be very hurt...... so i dun wana reaveal anyting right now..jst wana b frinds but i want him to talk to me bcz i already tired once but it was lie and now im very scared to even say hi to him when we hav nothing important to talk wid each other..and i can't jst say hi all of sudden he will think im after him... u know wat im saying?? so ya im lil confused abt it...................

    and yes i will definately pray for u and yes im praying durud sharif for sure... ALLAH APKI SARI DUAYEIN QABOOL KARE AAMEEN

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    Quote Originally Posted by rozina View Post
    Asalaam walikum

    Im Rozina khan from Unied States... I jst joined this forum and saw everyone posts so thouht being in Friendship Forum i might get some help from there.

    Mujhe nahi maloom meri zindagi kahan ja rahi hae aur meh samaj nahi pa rahi ke mujhe kia karna chahiye...

    This is my Story...
    When i was 14, in pak, I use to love one of my cuzn in pak and i never told him and was jst used to love him by jst staring him. never talk abt my feelings with him.....

    Then i moved to usa and left everything start my scool and was trying my best to forget him... and for that i started talking on internet with random boys and met one guy and fell in love wid him and i thought i forget my cuzn.. was really happy with dis internet guy and moved on in life with him..... den one day dis internet guy reaveald all abt his lies he been telling me for years like 3 years and when i fond out everytihng he wasn't muslim he was sikh. hindu but lived in london with his family... so even if i wana keep my friendship that love i used to love has gone... he used to talk abt romantic stuff and i was too bcz i was too attached wid him and i was really in love with dis internet guy but now when i know i cn't marry him and he also react as hes bored of me so we still talk but not like before.. i forgav him for lying and everything and moved on wid him but that lies and everyting is not easy to forget... i can't feel love with him anymore and been months im jst thining abt my cuzn and he doesnt talk wid me cuz in my family we dun really talk wid cuzns in boys and we are not that close... if i talk wid my cuzn he will think strange. and if i don't talk wid him den how im gona spend my whole life with this internet guy who is not even loving me anymore and can't even marry me and played with my feelings and jst said Sorry to me?

    I really need your pple advice...
    Thanks
    Rozina
    WALAIKUM ASSALAM

    sab se pehle chez to ye k ab us dhoke baz ko to bilkul side pe kardo...jisne itne sal k bad ja kar apko ye sab bataya agar wo sincere hota to wo itna wait q karta...wo sara drama hai aur koi bat nahi...aur dosri chez apne kaha ap us se mili nahi abi tak sirf internet pe he bat hue hai to kya guarantee k usne jo apni asal identity apko batae hai wo sach ho? islye is bande ko bilkul side pe kardo...aur dosri chez ye k ap kehti ho k u love ur czn aur is bande ko b nahi chor sakti to phir ye love to na hua...2logo se aik he sath love? aise kaise hoskta hai

    apne kaha wo larka sikh hai to phir to waise he Islam b allow nahi karta k Muslim larki ki kisi non muslim se shadi ho unless k non muslim larka Musalman hojae


    is bande ki jahan tak bat hai to ap isko bilkul side pe kardo...isko lift he mar karao sire se aur phir apko pata chal jaega k ye kitna pani main hai jb ap aisa karogi to wo apna asli rop dekhaega aur u ko pata chal jaega k wo kitna sincere hai...

    jahan tak k czn ki bat hai to wo khud se to kuch hoga nahi u ko us se bat karni hogi aik dam se nahi...pehle ahista ahista bat chet start karo aur phir jab u ko yaqeen hojae k aisa time agya hai k ap us se bat karskti ho to karlo bat ya phir apni family mai jis par ap bharosa kar sakti ho us se bat karlo...


    magar sab se pehli chez ye hai k ap decide karo k ap rehna kis k sath chahti ho london walay k sath ya apne czn k sath

    sab se pehle to ye faisla lo jo phir jab ap aik ko select karlogi to kafi confusions apki apni khatam hojaengi...

    mere hisab se to dagha baz ko kick kardo


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    Quote Originally Posted by ~*Rano*~ View Post
    welcum 2 SD rozina....


    after hearing all dis...i ll jus say tht forget da lier.....n think it wasnt love....coz love yeh sab nai hota....it was only attachement nufin elz.....n he dont deserve u aswell....us ko us k jesi he mil jaye gi kisi din.....yeh socho keh ager tum ais se b kahin agay pohanch jati or phir tumhirn truth pata chalta....thn??.....wot can u do? nufin....

    ab pata chal....Allah ka shuker ada karo....or dua kiya karo....zindagi main ab agay jo b ho Allah teri raza or tere hukam se ho......or sab acha ho......jo mere liye behter hai wohi mujay ata ker de...beshak keh tu sab kch jannay wala hai....Ameen

    tu bas zada se zada darood shareef parha karien......Allah talah dil ko sakoon ata kare ga or sab kch acha ker de ga.....Apne hukam se InshaAllah

    or jo ap ne apne cuzn ka likha....ager wo acha larka hai......ap ko lagta hai keh ap ik achi zindagi us k saath guzar sakti hain......tu apne ghar walon se ya us larkay se baat karien,,,,,baki jo Allah ka manzoor howa wohi ho ga.....

    Allah apni raza apne hukam se ap k saath wohi kare jo ap k liye acha or behter ho.....or sab ko aqal samhj or hidayat de....Ameen suma Ameen
    wah u to baray fit idea deti ho

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    Quote Originally Posted by rozina View Post
    Thank you So Much Rani for replying

    Ap bht achi hae aur bht achi batein karti hae... Mera dil khush ho gaya ap ka msg perh ker.. ALLAH APKO HAMESHA KHUSH RAKHE AAMEEN!

    ji meh apki baat ko samaj rahi hoon lekin ek prb hae jis se meh darti hoon...... is larke ne mujhse maaphi mangi aur bht sorry kaha... meh hoon toh aakhir insaan aur uski dost yeh sab sochne ke baat meh ne use maaph kar diya.... lekin ab prb yeh hae k woh mujhse kehta hae ke agar meh ne use chor dia toh woh apni jaan de dega...aur meh use personally mili nahi hoon... agar usne aisa kia toh meh kahin na kahin uski zimadaar ho jao gi aur as a friend i would never wish for him like dis... i want him to be happy in his life jst i wna move on wid him.... and ab toh humari baat cheet bhi kam ho gai hae.... we dun talk like we used to..jst like friendss........ so i can't really leave him but almost left him.....

    aur ek aur baat...mera cuzn bht acha hae.. aur bht zada respected hae... aur mujhe dar lagta hae us se baat karne se kio k woh mere brothers se bht attached hae aur agar meh ne use apni feelings bata di toh kahin yeh family prb na ban jaye aur woh in sab baton meh interested bhi nahi hae... he jst studying hard to become sumthing...and im also studying but at the same time i always go online on yahoo and he is available... i tried to talk wid him like 2 times so he make excuses that i hav work cya later.... or talk to u later.... phir baat nahi ki khud se...but he wished me on my bday.... i wonder if he feel same or not...cuz he got his bz life and i never interfered in his life.... i duno if he love sumone or not as he hav same age as mine 21.... so part of studying im jst waiting for him and im not even sure if he will come to me or not............. i never shared abt him to anyone in family.... i dun think he knows iloved him ever.........

    But thanks for praying so much for me... INSHALLAH APKI DUAYEIN MERE KAAM AAYE GI... and i will for sure pray durud sharif to feel better thankss thanks a lot...............
    usne apse mafi internet pe he mangi haina apko kaise pata k wo kitna sincere hai...pehle b to kitni aisi batain karta hoga k u ko lagta hoga k wo sincere hai but nikla wo sab jhot bola usne...

    aur aik bat main apko batata hoon ye kuch b nahi karte ye log jo hote haina dhamkiyan dene walay k main marjaonga ye karlonga wo karlonga k kuch b nahi karsaktay sara drama hota hai itna asan nai hota...ye sab sirf zabani batain hoti hain...ap sirf internet pe ho usk sath pata nahi uski real life kaisi hogi...uska to apko kuch b nahi pata...kam mushkil hai ye but ap kuch din klye apne apko bz karlo in dono se apna dehan hata lo aur apne apko bz rakho friends main aur games, ya jo b apki hobbies hain un main aur akele mat raho zada se zada try karo k koi na koi dost aisa ho apk sath jis k sath apka time acha guzre aur us doran apki maximum ye koshish honi chahye hai k ap apne us dost se in dono main se kisi k baray main kisi kisam ki bat na karo...

    is kam k bad b apka dil thora sa mutmain hoga n u can decide who is better


    aur love ki jahan tak k bat hai k 14 years ki age se hai apko

    magar apne ye b kaha k apki kabi apne czn se bat nahi hue to ap isko love kaise keh sakti ho q k kya pata us bande ki aur apki soch main farq ho thek hai wo respected ho magar apki aur uski soch na milit ho bilkul b...islye ap sab se pehle to usko janne ki try karo k wo kaisa hai kya sochta hai kisi aur ko to pasand nahi karta ye sari chezain important hain...

    usk bad kafi sari chezain u klye ez hojainge q k ye koi chota mota faisla nahi hai incase k sab kuch thek hojata hai matlab k apka czn apka sath deta hai but apki aur uski sochain na milti hoon aur kafi sari chezon main ikhtlaf ho ap dono ki to kaise guzarogi pori zindagi aise

    islye thori si effort karo usko jannay ki koshish karo sab se pehle to phir usk bad u klye asani hojaegi k kon u klye better hai


    aur sab se best hal batata hoon,....


    ap 2 nafil parho aur ALLAH PAAK se madad mango

    istakhara karo....


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    Quote Originally Posted by ~*Rano*~ View Post
    thnx alot keh ap ko meri baatien achi lagien....

    ais per main yeh kehna chahti keh......dekho...maafi mang lenay se insaan pak saaf nai ho jata...jo ik dafa jhoot bol sakta hai......wo kabhi b bol sakta hai.......wo b us ne jhoot tab bola jab wo kehta tha keh he is in love wid u.....tu us main us ne jhoot bola tu....wot u expect 4rm him nxt...? us ki baaton main na aoo....

    or dosri baat....koi b kisi k liye nai marta....yeh zehan se nikal do keh us ne khud ko kch ker liya tu all.....sab ++++++ hai.....us ne kaha he dont love u sab jhot tha n all.....tu y wud he ll giv his lyf jus 4 u? y? socho......or payar hota b.....phir b koi b kisi k liye nai marta....marna ya apni jaan khud lena koi asaan kaam nai hai....or waisay b jis Insaan ki Allah ne jitni zindagi likhi hai us ne wo pori ker k he ais dunia se jana hai....Zindagi mout Allah k haath main hai or wo tab he ati hai Jab Allah talah chahta hai...kisi insaan k bas main marna jeena hota...tu koi b insaan na marta......

    ais liye yeh sab fazool ki childish baatien hain keh mar jaon ga or jaan de doon ga n bla bla bla....nufin gonna happen trust me....or chalo mano ho b jata hai aisa...tu kaya? tum ne us ko kaha tha mar jao...ya tum ne us ko khud maar diya hai....? nai na...tu jo b wo kare ga wo totally us ka apna kasoor hoga.....or Allah ne us ki mout likhi hi waisay hogi...tu us ko waisi he ani thi...ais main kisi ka ya tumhara kaya kasoor howa phir?....so its all bull ++++ dont think about it....


    jahan tak u k cuzn ki baat hai tu......ur only 21...n u r studyin n he is studyin as well.....jus giv ur self sum tym n him as well.....but in mean tym jus try to do lill bit frndship wid him...so u can know him better n i ll also make easy 4 u 2 decide whetr u wnt him or not.....n u ll also know his reactions n all.....or i dont think k ager tum us se thori buht baat kerna shoro karo gi tu wo tumhare bhaiyon ya kisi ko batanay beth jaye ga keh wo muj se baat kerti hai...salam dua haal chaal puchna ya halki phulki study se related baat cheet kerna koi buri baat nai....wo b apne cuzn se.....so jus try.....

    yeh b ais liye...keh kabhi lyf main tum mor k yeh na socho keh...tum ne try nai ki us k liye......keh kash ager try kerti tu shayed mil jata wo.....so bas ik try ker k dekh lo.....


    baki sab Allah talah per chor do......or ais baat per stick raho keh...Allah talah ki raza k begair ik pata b nai hilta...tu ager Allah ki raza hoyi us ka hukam howa tu...wo zaroor tumhien milay ga...or ager usi ki raza usi ka hukam na howa tu dunia ki koi b cheez tumhien us se milwa nai sakti......so yaqeen rakho ais baat per...Allah per....or dil ki sachaiyon se try karo.....Allah zaroor madad kare ga InshaAllah talah......

    darood pak parhti raho...dil ko sakon milay ga...apne liye b dua karo or mere liye...
    g han ful time i agree k apne czn se bat kare

    usko jannay ki sab se pehle koshish kare aur phir kuch decide kare q k sirf shakal sorat pe ya aisi chezon se insan ka nahi pata chalta insan ka andar ka acha hona buhat zarori hai q k zindagi main aise log to buhat hote hain jo humen ache lagte hain magar unki asal life aur unka charactor buhat ajeb hota hai...kitne he aise log u ki surroundings main b honge main ye nahi keh raha k u ka czn aisa hoga but sab se zarori chez jo hai k uski n apki soch ka milna zarori hai


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    Quote Originally Posted by rozina View Post
    Ur welcome Rano ji, mujhe ap se mil kar bht khushi hui

    Yes u are right, its not in my hands if sumone die and im fully agree wid ur words... Jab tak ALLAH na chahe ek pata bhi nahi hil sakta.... meh ne bas use ek simple friendship rakhi hae jo na hone ke barabar hae.

    Actually
    Mujhe se ek bht bari galti hui thi recently jo meh ne yahan mention nahi kia... actually meh ne ek fake id banai thi facebook per jab mujhe internet guy ke bareh meh sab pata chal gaya toh meh apne cuzn ko miss karne lagi aur socha ke try karti hoon uski zindagi ke bareh meh kuch jane k liye... so i made fake id wid sara id and i started talking wid him...and became his nice friend only... we talk like 2 weeks and he was being very nice but then i realized im lying to him jst like that internet guy lied to me abt his identity and i was very scared, so i couldn't take that lie anymore and i told him that i was really bored so i thought to hav sum fun..so i made fake id to bother people so i talk wid u too.. and i think during that 2 weeks he was kind of liking me but didn't know that i was his cuzn cuz i lied abt my name as sara..... which i know i did wrong but at that time i was doing wat i was thinking right.... and was totally messed cuz of that internet guy couldn't thinking anytihng properly was jst doing.....

    Then when he found out first he was shocke and he even said like wese i was totaly flirt wid u and was laughing kind of embaraced but next day i sent him sorry card and said sorry to him lots of time and he was like im sorry but im not ur cuzn im ur cuzn friend...he told me his password and i was the one who was talking to u when u were being sara..... i knew its my cuzn who was trying to shw me that it wasnt him while i was making him fool wid sara id.... tu us ne poori baat palat di aur mujhe jhoot bola k woh mera cuzn nahi mera dost tha jise meh sara k naam se baat kar rahi thi kio k usne apna password share kia tha apne dost k sath aur kaha k woh interested nahi strange girls se facebook per baat karne k liye... so i said ok and we jst finish the matter dere.

    woh apne raste aur meh apne raste phir mere cuzn ne mujhse kabhi baat nahi ki..i told him not to share abt dis to my brothers so he didnt and then wejst both went quite.... aur is baat ko 2 months ho gaye hae.... he is not talking to me after that...and not me either.... not on fb not on yahoo..... ab meh available hoti hoon roz jab bhi use available dekhti hoon yahoo per lekin baat nahi karti warna woh soche ga ke meh uske peeche lagi hoon aur woh bht zada smart hae... uska mukabla karna mere liye bht zada mushkil hae.... bas yehi jhoot tha jo mujhse ho gaya lekin meh ne bht sorry kaha aur usne bas uske baad kabhi baat nahi ki aaj tak nahi...... i wonder woh mere bareh meh kuch sochta hae ya nahi aur kia woh kabhi mujhse khud se baat karega ya nhi..............

    yes i need ur help but i am not gona talk wid him dis time first... warna yeh saaf zahir ho jaye ga k meh uske peeche lagi hon and i can be in trouble i dun wana reaveal my love for him like that... i am not hurt now but if he found out and leave me i will be very hurt...... so i dun wana reaveal anyting right now..jst wana b frinds but i want him to talk to me bcz i already tired once but it was lie and now im very scared to even say hi to him when we hav nothing important to talk wid each other..and i can't jst say hi all of sudden he will think im after him... u know wat im saying?? so ya im lil confused abt it...................

    and yes i will definately pray for u and yes im praying durud sharif for sure... ALLAH APKI SARI DUAYEIN QABOOL KARE AAMEEN
    agar ap us se bat he nahi karogi to ye sab hoga kaise

    apko us se bat karni he hogi nahi to phir jo last option hai wo apki family ka hai k ap apne ghar main batao aur phir ghar walay wahan ja kar usk ghar walon se bat karain isk ilawa koi option nahi...aur fb ki id ka pasword thek hai share kya hoga magar kya 2 weeks main apk czn ne khud kabi id pe sign in ho kar chek nahi kya hoga k kya new notifications hain ya koi request etc comments....

    ye apka czn he hoga wiase keh raha hoga pasword wali bat...

    ap try to karo is se ye hoga k mamla to aik taraf hoga warna u dorahay main phansi rahogi...


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