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    Asslam-o-alaikum

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    "Kiya Age(Umar) main farq shadi shuda zindagi per asar andaz hota hai?" yanee agar larki bari ho or larka chota tu farq pare ga ? or agar larka kafi bara ho or larki kafi choti tu tab bhi kiya farq pare ga ?" apni raye ka izhar karna tha ...


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    Amna Rani
    Ehem ehem........
    Bari gal ae g.mere matlab ka sawal puch lia u ne............
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    Ye mera zaati tajurba hai k larka larki ki umr me farq honay se koi farq nahi parta...........Mere husband mujh se 2.5 years chotay hain.......Or ALHAMDULILLAH hamari boht achi understanding hai.....ham boht khush hain....
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    Zaati tor pe mera ye khayal hai k umr ka farq hona koi bari baat nahi....agar soch milti ho to umr k farq ko nazar andaz kia ja sakta hai......Hamaray Pyare Nabi....صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ne b 25 sal ki umr me 40 sala HAzrat Khadija se shadi kar k ye sabit kar dia hai k bari umr ki orat se shadi karne me koi harj nahi.....Or larka b agar zeyada bara ho to is se b koi farq nahi parta...han jo Ghir mamuli farq hai usko zarur madd.e.nazar rakhna chahye...yani 20 sal ki larki ki shadi 30,35 sal k larke se to ho sakti hai 50,60 sal k admi se nahi......wo isliye k larki jaldi bewa ho jati hai or uski zindgi khrab ho jati hai....


    shazia rana
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    nice question...asal men faraq umar ka nai zehni hum ahangi ka hota hai or english ki aik term father fixation men larrkian amuman apne baap ki umar k mardon ko idealise kerti hen lashaoori tor pe unhen apna baap hero lagta hai or agar is ki mazeed tahen kholi jain tu bap b isliye hero lagta hai k us se ap ki zehni hum ahangi hoti hai or dusra shayed meturity b wajah ho sakti hai...ab ati hun islamic point of view or larrki k barra hone ki taraf tu hamare nabi(S.A.W) ne jab hazrat khadija se shadi ki to wo tab un se 8 saal barri thin.
    last point hai ishq na puchay zaat,na wekhe takht,na wekhe taj



    sannan
    mairay khiyal main larka ko kum uz kum 5 7 saal bara hona chahiye keonkah shadi key baad larki bari jaldi borhi aur bari umar key lagnay lagti hay aur mard to rahta he jawan hay Phir loog larki ko aunty kah kar chairtay hain
    waisay aapus key baat main nay choti umar main shadi shuda logoon ko bari chachoori harkatain kartay daikha hay jaisay dosroon kay samnay hath pakarna aik dosray ka maani khaiz nigahoon say saikhna especially agar larka choti umar ka ya hum umar ho , donoon shokheon key hadood ko cross kar laitay hain ...... A man must be mature


    Arosa Hya
    Wa Alaikum aslam!

    "Kiya Age(Umar) main farq shadi shuda zindagi per asar andaz hota hai?" yanee agar larki bari ho or larka chota tu farq pare ga ? or agar larka kafi bara ho or larki kafi choti tu tab bhi kiya farq pare ga ?"

    Islami tasawwur k mutabik:

    Jahan tak Islami nazriye ka tauluk hai nikkah k liye umer ka farq maini nhi rakhta bashart ye k baham raza mandi shamil ho. Is mai koi qabahat nhi. Jis ki misaal Rasol e Aqdas izzat e ma'ab S.A.W ne amli tor per di. Aap S.A.W ka nikkah jab Hazrat Khadija tul Kubra R.A se hoa to ap S.A.W ki umer sirf 25 saal jb k Hazrat Khadija R.A ki 40 saal thi.
    Dosri traf jab Hazrat Ayesha R.A ka nikkah jb Aap S.A.W se hoa to unki umer sirf 6 saal or rukhsati k waqt ghalban 9 saal thi. Is se sabat ho jata hai k nikkah k liye umer ka farq maini nhi rakhta.
    Lekin zyada pasand yehi kia gaya k dono taqreeban hum umer hon ya larki ki kuch km umer ho ,mazrat k sath is zaman mai hadees yaad nhi theek se.
    Or agar ap hmary maushry ki baat krti hain to yahan b umer ka farq koi qabahat nhi magar zyada ter aisa hota hai k larki ki raza shamil krna zrori nhi smja jata khas kr qabaili ilaqa jat main jo intehayi na munasib amal hai. punjab mai b boht se log dolat ya jaidad k lalach mai aisi ziyadti k murtakib hoty hain.

    Tasawwur e Nafsiyat:
    Is bary mai Pscycological research ka kehna hai k larkiyan larkon se jald mature ho jati hain ,yani larkian 9 saal or larke 15 saal k ho kr mature hoty hain lehaza aise couples jin mai larki ki age larke se 6 saal km ho to wo aik ideal zindagi guzarte hain.
    Lekin agar umer ka farq boht zyada ho to understanding kam or compromise zyada krna parta hai.



    sweet_lily

    Walaikum Assalam

    Good Question!

    Aaj k doar main kuch infact kaafi cheezain aisi hain jinhain agar Islamic History k lehaz se daikha jaye to wo aur tarha sahih lagti hain aur agar aaj ki nasal ki soch k hawalay se daikha ajye to kuch aur tarha se! Yeh Topic bhi unhi baaton main se aik hai. Jaisa k baaqi sab ne bhi kaha k Nabi Akram(SAW) ki zindagi ki misaal hamaray saamnay hai (K larka choti aur larki barri ho) Magar Yeh tab ki baat thi jab LOG aur MUAASHRAy ka reaction aur thoughts aur theen. Aaj kal ki society is baat ko asaani se qabool nai karti k larki barri ho. Sab ne kaha k asal baat Mard aur aurat ki zehni hum-ahangi ki hoti hai par main yeh kehna chahun gi k ASAL baat beshak yehi hoti hai magar is Asal k peechay bohat si baatain aur bhi hoti hain. Aap zehni hum ahangi ko base bana k kuch zyada arsa khush nahin reh saktay jabkay aap ko baar baar yeh ehsas dilaya jaye k rishta be joarr hai aur yeh ehsas dilanay walay bohat mil jatay hain. Is liye meray khayal se to Larkay ko hi barra hona chahiye!

    2ndly, maturity ki baat. Aurat tab tak mature nahin hoti jab tak zindagi ko khud se parakh na le, jab tak us pe zimadaariyan na ayain. Agar 27 saal ki larki bhi hai magar na us pe koi zimadaari hai na koi fikar to wo zehni lehaz se mature nai hoti, Har cheez ko takhayyul ki bina pe daikhti hai jabkay mard Age k saath saath mature ho hi jata hai cahahay haalat jaisay bhi hon. Aur Mian biwi k rishtay ko nibhanay k liye aik fareeq ka mature hona lazmi hai So I am in the favor k mard ko barra hona chahiye!




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    thefire1

    Walaikum Assaalaam

    Sab say pehlay tou humain iss baat ka jawab dhoondna chayeh kay humari family iss baat ko kis qadar pasand karay gii, aksar yeh dekha gaya hay kay families laRkoon kay maamlay main bohat strict hotii hay iss baat per kay laRkii umar main choutii ho aur iss ki jo waja main samajh saka hoon woh yeh hay kay taakay kam umar laRki aasnaani say ghar kay mahool main rach jaayay aur ziyada behas say bachay!!

    Aur laRkiyon kay maamlay main FLEXIBLE yaani humari family iss baat ki itni tarjeeh nahin daitii kay laRkay ki umar baRii hay, bas acha kamaata hay, acha rakh rakhayoo hay, achi family hay, aur bas.....!!

    Humaray maashray kay isii double standard nay humaray culture ki dhajiyan uRa kar rakh dee hain, jiss huqooq-e-nuswaan aur jo darja humaray mazhab nay aurat ko dia ussay hum nay 'man dominated society' main convert kardiya...!

    Khair jahan tak main nay dekha hay humaray maashray main iss ka BOHAT ziayda farq paRta hay, balkay families tou qubool hi nahin kartii agar laRkii laRkay say baRii ho aur agar laRka apni pasand say haan bhi kar day tou laRkiyan aksar iss taanay ka shikaar rehtii hain, kabhi ghar waaloon kay taanay tou kabhi laRkay kay rishtaydaroon kay tou kabhi mohallay waaloon kay.... aisi situation laRkii ko zehni mareez bana daitii hay aur woh 'inferior complex' ka shikaar ho jaatii hay... sach main yeh bohat takleef day baat hay kay hum ISLAM ki roo say iss baat ko jaannay kay bawajood bhi aur Nabi-e-Karim SAW ki misaal dainay kay bawajood bhi.... Aap SAW ki sunnat aur ISLAM ki taleemat say kitnay dour hain!!

    Iss kay bar-aks agar laRka umar main laRkii say kaafi baRa hoo, talaaq yaafta ho, dosri shadi ho, mehaz acha amdani aur kamayii hoo tou waldain apnii laRkii ki shaadi karnay say guraiz nahin kartay aur laRkii ko mana hi laitay hain... iss say waldain ko tou koi farq nahin paRta magar laRkii apnay say baRii umar kay shaks kay saath bohat MOHTAAT zindagi basar kartii hay jo kay uss ko gam-go aur zehni dabayoo ka shikaar bana daita hay...

    Meri zaati rayay yeh hay kay SHAADI aik aisa rishta hay jo kay muqaddas honay ka saath saath aik KHUSHI aur PLEASURE ka hissa hay aur yeh pleasure srif MARD tak mehdood nahin hay, AURAT bhi iss ki haqdaar hay... iss liye zindagi main jab tak dono tarf say BALANCE na ho chahay woh BALANCE dono ki UMAR ka ho, EDUCATION ka hoon, KHOOBSURTI ka ho, QADD ka hoo, yaa MIZAAJ ka tou zindagi guzaarna dushwaar hota hay... Haan albatta Mizaaj waghaira tou guzartay waqt aur saath reh kar door hosakta hay, magar umar main aik baRa farq, zindagi main bhi baRa farq laa sakta hay, ho sakta hay pehlay chand saal zindagi pur-sukoon guzray magar baaqi zindagi dushwaar ho saktii hay, aur takleef day bhi!!!

    May ALLAH SWT light and guide our ways AMEEN SUM AMEEN
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    Sab key replies boht hi achey lagey aor to the point the.. Vote to sirf 1 ko karna tha jo sab sey acha laga usey kar diya.. Waisey to sabhi key replies almost same quality key the..

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    Thanks everyone for participating and informing us with your valuable comments.

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