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    Can serious relations be built without any understanding??

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    well pehle zamano mai tu hojaya karte thee aab tu kafi muskil hai .. infact aab relationships understanding hone k baad b mis understand hojate hain

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    Agreed With sheem

    Bohat Mushkil hai wesay b understanding to bas kehne ki baat hai har taraf compromise hi nazar aata hai zyada tar

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    Assalaam-O-alaikum

    Actually it is a very tricky question, specially in our society where meeting a man/lady before marriage is considered as 'sin'.. IN the era of Prophet Mohammad SAW and Sahaba-e-Karam, women were given power to choose their soulmate and she had free right to reject whomever she wishes.

    If I correctly understood, you meant 'serious relationship' as 'long life marital relationship', then offcourse it cannot be built without understanding each other.... Haan aksar humarain waldain humaray liye rishta choose kartay hain aur chahtay hain kay hum unki 'haan main haan' mila kar apni 'wafadaari' ka suboot dain aur kisi aisay shakhs say saath poori zindagi munsalik kardain jis ko hum pehlay milay bhii nahin...

    Meray khayal main yeh ghalat hay, laRka laRkii ko aik dosray ko samajhnay ka mouqa daina chayeh, aik hii mulaaqat main yeh mumkiin nahin, aur baar baar mulaqaat hona 'sharaiii' lihaaz say thiik nahin, albatta agar parent waqayii 'beta aur betii' ki khushi chahtay hain tou bachoon ko shadi say pehlay aik dosray ko samajhnay ka mouqa daina chayeh jahan mulaqaat chahyay aik dosray kay ghar main izaat-o-ehtraam say karwayii jaayain..

    LaRkay iss maamlay main shayed thoRa mamlaa light rakhtay hain kiyonki humaray maashray main dominance mardoon kii hay tou samajtay hain kay kaisay bhii laRkii ko apnay rang main dhal lain gain... albaatta laRKI koo khuli choice honii chayeh, aur laRkiiyan mardoon kay maamlay main 'kam-umri' main hii bohat matured saabit hoyee hain aur apna acha bura soch saktii hain, laRkay say mulaaqat kay douran usko samajh saktii hain.....

    Baaqi aksar shaadi kay baad understanding ho hii jaatii hay, yaa yoon kahyeh kay NIBHA hi lia jaata hay rishtay ko....!!

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    Koi bhi relation hoo without trust buildup ho he nahi sakta hai .. Its impossible
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    Quote Originally Posted by thefire1 View Post
    Assalaam-O-alaikum

    Actually it is a very tricky question, specially in our society where meeting a man/lady before marriage is considered as 'sin'.. IN the era of Prophet Mohammad SAW and Sahaba-e-Karam, women were given power to choose their soulmate and she had free right to reject whomever she wishes.

    If I correctly understood, you meant 'serious relationship' as 'long life marital relationship', then offcourse it cannot be built without understanding each other.... Haan aksar humarain waldain humaray liye rishta choose kartay hain aur chahtay hain kay hum unki 'haan main haan' mila kar apni 'wafadaari' ka suboot dain aur kisi aisay shakhs say saath poori zindagi munsalik kardain jis ko hum pehlay milay bhii nahin...

    Meray khayal main yeh ghalat hay, laRka laRkii ko aik dosray ko samajhnay ka mouqa daina chayeh, aik hii mulaaqat main yeh mumkiin nahin, aur baar baar mulaqaat hona 'sharaiii' lihaaz say thiik nahin, albatta agar parent waqayii 'beta aur betii' ki khushi chahtay hain tou bachoon ko shadi say pehlay aik dosray ko samajhnay ka mouqa daina chayeh jahan mulaqaat chahyay aik dosray kay ghar main izaat-o-ehtraam say karwayii jaayain..

    LaRkay iss maamlay main shayed thoRa mamlaa light rakhtay hain kiyonki humaray maashray main dominance mardoon kii hay tou samajtay hain kay kaisay bhii laRkii ko apnay rang main dhal lain gain... albaatta laRKI koo khuli choice honii chayeh, aur laRkiiyan mardoon kay maamlay main 'kam-umri' main hii bohat matured saabit hoyee hain aur apna acha bura soch saktii hain, laRkay say mulaaqat kay douran usko samajh saktii hain.....

    Baaqi aksar shaadi kay baad understanding ho hii jaatii hay, yaa yoon kahyeh kay NIBHA hi lia jaata hay rishtay ko....!!

    wa alaikum assalam!
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    ofcourse NO, NO, NO
    Quote Originally Posted by Arosa Hya View Post
    wa alaikum assalam!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Arosa Hya View Post
    Can serious relations be built without any understanding??
    zindagi mein kabhi b koi b rishta understanding k bghair nai chal sakta ... yeh zaruri nai k aaap k rishtey mein muhabbat ho to understanding ki zarurt nahi hoti balkey mere khyal mein to muhabbat mein understanding ki zyada zarurt hoti ha ta k aaaap is payarey rishtey ko achhey se nibha sakein
    or agr understanding se aapki zindagi mein kuch payarey rishtey aa jatey hain to is mein kuch mushkil nai aagey jaisey kisi ki marzi ....


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    Quote Originally Posted by thefire1 View Post
    Assalaam-O-alaikum

    Actually it is a very tricky question, specially in our society where meeting a man/lady before marriage is considered as 'sin'.. IN the era of Prophet Mohammad SAW and Sahaba-e-Karam, women were given power to choose their soulmate and she had free right to reject whomever she wishes.

    If I correctly understood, you meant 'serious relationship' as 'long life marital relationship', then offcourse it cannot be built without understanding each other.... Haan aksar humarain waldain humaray liye rishta choose kartay hain aur chahtay hain kay hum unki 'haan main haan' mila kar apni 'wafadaari' ka suboot dain aur kisi aisay shakhs say saath poori zindagi munsalik kardain jis ko hum pehlay milay bhii nahin...

    Meray khayal main yeh ghalat hay, laRka laRkii ko aik dosray ko samajhnay ka mouqa daina chayeh, aik hii mulaaqat main yeh mumkiin nahin, aur baar baar mulaqaat hona 'sharaiii' lihaaz say thiik nahin, albatta agar parent waqayii 'beta aur betii' ki khushi chahtay hain tou bachoon ko shadi say pehlay aik dosray ko samajhnay ka mouqa daina chayeh jahan mulaqaat chahyay aik dosray kay ghar main izaat-o-ehtraam say karwayii jaayain..

    LaRkay iss maamlay main shayed thoRa mamlaa light rakhtay hain kiyonki humaray maashray main dominance mardoon kii hay tou samajtay hain kay kaisay bhii laRkii ko apnay rang main dhal lain gain... albaatta laRKI koo khuli choice honii chayeh, aur laRkiiyan mardoon kay maamlay main 'kam-umri' main hii bohat matured saabit hoyee hain aur apna acha bura soch saktii hain, laRkay say mulaaqat kay douran usko samajh saktii hain.....

    Baaqi aksar shaadi kay baad understanding ho hii jaatii hay, yaa yoon kahyeh kay NIBHA hi lia jaata hay rishtay ko....!!



    sare baat krne k bad ap ne end main phir yehe kehdya k shadi k bad nibha he lia jata hai tu phir kia faida mulaqat karwane ka..
    mera yeh khayal hia k mulaqat krne se baaatain karne se ,..expectations barhti hian or phir agey chal kar jo hazam nahi horahe hoti...!!!
    Main un sheesha garahon se pochta hon
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    Quote Originally Posted by naz View Post




    sare baat krne k bad ap ne end main phir yehe kehdya k shadi k bad nibha he lia jata hai tu phir kia faida mulaqat karwane ka..
    mera yeh khayal hia k mulaqat krne se baaatain karne se ,..expectations barhti hian or phir agey chal kar jo hazam nahi horahe hoti...!!!
    Infact Shaadi say pehlay mulaqaat ka maqsad mujhay abhi tak sahi samajh nahin aaya......kiyonki zahir see baat hay kay aksar couple pehli yaa dosri mulaqaat main thoRii na khul kar saamnay aayaiin gain.... Asal haqeeqat tou Shaadi kay baad hii saamnay aati hay....

    Laikin mujhay Yeh lagta hay kay sinf e naazuk apnay jeewan saathi kay maamlay main kuch ziyada sensitive hoti hay aur ussay shayed pehli ya dosri mulaqaat main mard kay khaylaat ka andaza ho jaayay isi liye ussay bhi poora haq hona chayeh apni rayii ka izhar karnay ka....

    Magar hota Yoon hay kay aksar waldain milwa tou detay hain aur saath main advice bhii kartay hain, dekh beti Koi ulti seedhi baat na karna, aisay rishtay qismat say hii aatay hain aur laRki becharii waldain kii khushi kii khaatir aksar Khamoshi ko hii naimat samajhtii hay....


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