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    The relationship between a husband and a wife should be enriched when it's no longer easy to give or to get love. Therefore, always remember Prophet Muhammad's advice:
    Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) as saying: A believing man [husband] should not hate a believing woman [his wife]; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another. (Sahih Muslim. Book 8, Number 3469)
    Many couples become disillusioned after a few of months in wedlock. They give up working on the relationship and blame one another. They forget that it cannot be "springtime" all the time. Yet, no one wants to live in summer forever. So hold your breath and gather all the wisdom that Allah gave you to go through this stage and reach the tranquility, mercy, and love mentioned in the verse. These will be the lasting, calm, and warm emotions of love between a husband and wife who are living for the sake of Allah.
    You can think that way: Is this the person I want to continue the rest of my life with? If the answer is "no," then you will not be willing to invest much in this relation anyway, you will give it a weak try and then give up. If the answer is "yes," then the question becomes "What do I do now that I found out my partner in not what I thought?" Debating whether your partner misrepresented himself or herself or you misread your partner won't solve anything. Here are some things you may consider doing:
    • Choose to love your partner. Remember that it's Allah Who makes the "love and mercy happen between the husband and the wife.

    • Seek Allah's help and ask Him to make that "chemistry" happen. Also, open your heart and give your partner the benefit of doubt; stand in your partner's shoes and try to see things from his or her perspective.

    • Look at how you may have changed as well after marriage.

    • You will not be able to actually change someone. All you can do is provide a different and favorable environment for your partner to want to change.
    • Realize that you may have legitimate concerns.Voice them to your partner in a constructive way with the hope that he or she will be willing to work toward change or at least understand your concerns.

    • Express with respect. Use "I-messages": "I" feel and "I" think, not "you" did such and such.

    • Invest in this family. Paradise is worth your best effort. A little whisper in the wife's ear is, "Allah made one important mission in this life which is to make this family happy." The motive is wonderful. The Prophet said,
    "If a woman prayed the five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor, and obeyed her husband, then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): Enter Paradise from any of its (eight) doors". (Ibn Hibban)
    Do not listen to voices like "He is no better than you are! Why do you have to listen?" The Prophet mentioned the advice for a reason, so do not ruin your life. Instead, invite love to your house and be patient. It is love and happiness in this life and Paradise in the hereafter.



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    Last edited by shaan; 15-04-2008 at 12:22 AM.

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