TEN SECRETS TO BE A BETTER PERSON
1st Secret - THE POWER OF THOUGHT
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving
thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships.
Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and
ourselves. If we want to love someone, we need to consider his/her
needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you
recognize him/her when you meet him/her.
2nd Secret - THE POWER OF RESPECT
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them.
The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self
respect, ask yourself, what do I respect about myself?? To gain
respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, what do I
respect about them??
3rd Secret - THE POWER OF GIVING
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it. The more
love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of
yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of
Before committing to a relationship, ask not what the other person
will be able to give you but rather what will you be able to give them.
The secret formula of a happy, lifelong and loving relationship is to
always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.
4th Secret - THE POWER OF FRIENDSHIP
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does
not consist of gazing into each other's eyes but rather looking outward
together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must
first love him/her for who they are and not what they look like.
Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want
to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.
5th Secret - THE POWER OF TOUCH
Touch is one of the most powerful statements of love, breaking down
barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and
emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.
6th Secret - THE POWER OF LETTING GO
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, then
it's yours. If it does not, it never was. Even in a loving relationship,
people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must
first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means
letting go of our fears, prejudices, ego and conditions. Today I let
go of all my fears, the past has no power over me-today is the
beginning of a new life!
7th Secret - THE POWER OF COMMUNICATION
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To
love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know
that you love them and appreciate them. Never let an opportunity pass to
praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word as
it could be the last time you see him/her. If you were about to die but
could make telephone calls to the people you love, who would you
call, what would you say and......why are you waiting?
8th Secret - THE POWER OF COMMITMENT
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it
and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions.
Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving
relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When
you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option.
Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.
9th Secret - THE POWER OF PASSION
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not
come through physical attraction alone; it comes from deep commitment,
enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by
recreating past experiences. When you feel passionate, spontaneity
and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the
same-all we need to do is to live each day with passion.
10th Secret - THE POWER OF TRUST
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one
person becomes suspicious, envious and fearful and the other person feels
trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone
completely unless you trust him/her completely. Act as if your relationship
with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell
whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, do I trust
them completely and unreservedly? If the answer is no, then think
carefully before making a commitment.