The Rights and Importance Of Parents !!
A Short Story
An old man was sitting in the courtyard of his house along with his son who had received a high education. Suddenly a crow perched on a wall of the house. The father asked the son: What is this? The son replied: It is a crow. After a little while the father again asked the son: What is this? The son said: It is a crow.
After a few minutes the father asked his son the third time: What is this? The son said: Father, I have just now told you that this is a crow. After a little while the old father again asked his son the fourth time: what is this? By this time some statement of irritation was felt in the son's tone when he rebuffed his father: Father! It is a crow, a crow. A little after the father again asked his son: What is this? This time the son replied to his father with a vein of temper. Father: You are always repeating the same question; although I have told you so many times that it is a crow. Are you not able to understand this?
The father went to his room and came back with an old diary. Opening a page he asked his son to read what was written. What the son read were the following words written in the diary:
'Today my little son was sitting with me in the courtyard, when a crow came there. My son asked me twenty-five times what it was and I told him twenty-five times that it was a crow and I did not at all feel irritated. I rather felt affection for my innocent child.'
The father then explained to his son the difference between a father's and a son's attitude. While you were a little child you asked me this question twenty-five times and I felt no irritation in replying to the question twenty-five times and when today I asked you the same question only five times, you felt irritated, annoyed and impatient with me.
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَا لِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنّ َ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَ ا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُ مَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا
Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour.
وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَة ِ وَقُلْ رَبِّ ارْحَمْهُم َا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِ ي صَغِيرًا
And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood."
Surah Al-Isra (17:23-24)
Narrated 'Abdullah: I asked the Prophet(saws) "Which deed is the dearest to God?" He replied, "To offer the prayers at their early stated fixed times." I asked, "What is the next (in goodness)?" He replied, "To be good and dutiful to your parents"...(Bukhari)
Imam Zainul Abideen says: "It is also said that once a man came to the Holy Prophet Muhammad (saws) and asked: "I feed my parents, carry them on my back and clean them, have I fulfilled my duty towards them? The Holy Prophet Muhammad (saws) answered: No, because, you are serving them in anticipation for their death while they served you wishing you a long life".
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (saws) says: "Beware! Abstain from angering the parents. The fragrance of Paradise is perceived even at a distance of a thousand years, but those who are disobedient to parents and those who cut off ties with relatives will not be able to smell it."
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (saws) says: "One who displeases the parents, (it is as if) he has displeased Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him). One who angers both (mother and father) his parents (it is as if) he has angered Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him)."
Elsewhere, it is mentioned, "One who hurts his parents, hurts me and one who hurts me has hurt Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him). And the one who hurts Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him) is accursed."
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (saws) has also stated: "Allah (swt) will not speak to three kinds of people on the day of judgement. Neither will He have mercy upon them, nor will He purify their sins. There is for them a horrible chastisement. The three types of people are the believers in destiny, the drunkards and those who disobeyed their parents."
The wretchedness of the Aaq-e-Waledain is sufficiently evident from the fact that the trustworthy Jibraeel has cursed him and said, "One who is blessed with parents but does not fulfill their (his parent's) rights will not be forgiven (his sins) by Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him)."..When Jibreel (a.s) said this, The Holy Prophet Muhammad (saws) uttered, 'Amen'!
Imam Jafar Sadiq said, "Allah(swt) will not accept the Namaz of the person who stares angrily at his parents. Even though they (parents) may be unjust."
وَاعْبُدُو ا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا ۖ وَبِالْوَا لِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَبِذِي الْقُرْبَى ٰ وَالْيَتَا مَىٰ وَالْمَسَا كِينِ وَالْجَارِ ذِي الْقُرْبَى ٰ وَالْجَارِ الْجُنُبِ وَالصَّاحِ بِ بِالْجَنْب ِ وَابْنِ السَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُك ُمْ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ مَنْ كَانَ مُخْتَالًا فَخُورًا
Serve Allah and join not any partners with Him: and do good― to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need, neighbours who are near neighbours who are strangers, the Companion by your side, the way-farer (ye meet) and what your right hands possess: for Allah loveth not the arrogant, the vainglorious;― ) Surah An-Nisa :36)
وَوَصَّيْن َا الْإِنْسَا نَ بِوَالِدَي ْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُه ُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِد َيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ
And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command) "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal...(Surah Luqman:14)
"O' Allah! Make us such that we may be grateful for the efforts of our parents." "O' Allah! Make us successful in bringing forth a generation of pure-hearted, believing, grateful and righteous individuals...May Allah (sawt) grant us all the Divine success that we may be regarded amongst those who have been good towards their parents...ameen