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    25 Ways to Deal with Stress and Anxiety
    by Abdul Malik Mujahid

    Stress is life. Stress is anything that causes mental, physical, or

    spiritual tension. There is no running away from it. All that matters is

    how you deal with it. This article does not deal with the factors of

    stress, anxiety, and depression, nor is it a clinical advice. If you feel

    depressed, you are not alone. It has been estimated that 75 to 90 percent

    of all visits to primary care physicians in America are for stress-related

    problems. This is why it is wise to consult a doctor if you are having

    physical symptoms of stress. However, here are some tips that can help from

    a spiritual perspective.

    Torture. Beatings. Loss of property. The death of loved ones. These were

    just some of the enormous challenges the Muslims of Makkah faced in the

    seventh century following their acceptance of Islam in fiercely tribal and

    polytheistic Makkah.

    Detention. Harassment. Beatings. Discrimination. Loss of Job. Profiling.

    Hate Crimes. Constant media attention. Surveillance. These are just some of

    the challenges Muslims in America today face, post-9/11. Like our

    predecessors in Makkah, we have begun to face great stress, anxiety, and

    pressure, more than ever in our recent history on this continent, although

    Muslims who were brought here as slaves faced worse than what we can even


    1. Ask Him. He Listens: DU`A

    Turn each anxiety, each fear and each concern into a Dua (supplication).

    Look at it as another reason to submit to God and be in Sajdah

    (prostration), during which you are closest to Allah. God listens and

    already knows what is in your heart, but He wants you to ask Him for what

    you want.

    The Prophet said: Allah is angry with those who do not ask Him for anything


    The Prophet once said that in prayer, he would find rest and relief

    (Nasai). He would also regularly ask for God's forgiveness and remain in

    prostration during prayer praising God (Tasbeeh) and asking for His

    forgiveness (Bukhari).

    Allah wants you to be specific. The Prophet advised us to ask Allah for

    exactly what we want instead of making vague Duas. Dua is the essence of

    worship (the Prophet as quoted in Tirmidhi).

    "Call on your Lord with humility and in private: for Allah loveth not

    those who trespass beyond bounds. Do not make mischief on the earth, after

    it hath been set in order, but call on Him with fear. And longing (in your

    hearts): for the mercy of Allah is (always) near to those who do good"

    (Quran 7:55-56).

    2. Tie your Camel: DO YOUR PART

    One day Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, noticed a

    Bedouin leaving his camel without tying it. He asked the Bedouin, "Why

    don't you tie down your camel?" The Bedouin answered, "I put my trust in

    Allah." The Prophet then said, "Tie your camel first, then put your trust

    in Allah" (Tirmidhi).

    Muslims must never become fatalistic. Although we know only Allah is in

    control and that He has decreed all things, we are each responsible for

    making the right choices and doing the right thing in all situations of our

    lives. We must take action (link to planning articles on SV). We must work

    to alleviate the hardships we, our families and our communities face.

    Ask yourself the following questions if you are worried about the state of

    the world: are you part of the peace movement? Is your Masjid part of the

    peace movement? Are you part of an interfaith group with an agenda of peace

    and justice? Are you working with a group fighting discrimination? If your

    answer is no, it is time that you sat down to plan your share of time and

    money in finding solutions to the problems you face.

    "Verily Allah does not change men's condition unless they change their

    inner selves" (Quran 13: 11).

    Turn each worry into a Du`a and each Du`a into an action plan. That will

    show your commitment to your request and will focus your energy in the

    right direction.

    3. Remember that human responsibility is limited

    While we need to carry out our duty to the best of our abilities, always

    remember that you don't control the outcome of events. Even the Prophets

    did not control the outcome of their efforts. Some were successful, others

    were not. Once you have done your duty, leave the results to Allah.

    Regardless of the results of your efforts, you will be rewarded for the

    part you have played.

    However, never underestimate your abilities. Understand the concept of

    Barakah (blessings from Allah) and remember that Allah can and Insha Allah

    will expand them if you are sincerely exerting your energies for the right


    4. Leave the world behind you FIVE TIMES A DAY

    Use the five daily prayers as a means to become more Hereafter-oriented

    and less attached to this temporary world. Start distancing yourself as

    soon as you hear Adhan, the call to prayer. When you perform Wudu, keep

    repeating Shahada, the declaration of faith, as water drops slip down your

    face, hands, arms, and hair. When you stand ready to pray, mentally prepare

    yourself to leave this world and all of its worries and stresses behind


    Of course, Shaytan will try to distract you during prayer. But whenever

    this happens, go back and remember Allah. The more you return, the more

    Allah will reward you for it. Also, make sure your Sajdas (prostrations)

    are talking Sajdas, in which you are really connecting to God and seeking

    His Mercy, praising Him, and asking His forgiveness. (link to Sajda

    article...ramadan page)

    5. Seek help through SABR

    Seek help through Sabr and Salat (Quran 2:45).

    This instruction from Allah provides us with two critical tools that can

    ease our worries and pain. Patience and prayer are two oft-neglected

    stressbusters. Sabr is often translated as patience but it is not just

    that. It includes self-control, perseverance, endurance, and a focussed

    struggle to achieve one's goal. Unlike patience, which implies resignation,

    the concept of Sabr includes a duty to remain steadfast to achieve your

    goals despite all odds.

    Being patient gives us control in situations where we feel we have little

    or no control. 'We cannot control what happens to us but we can control our

    reaction to our circumstances' is the mantra of many modern-day self-help

    books. Patience helps us keep our mind and attitude towards our

    difficulties in check.

    6. Excuse Me! You are Not Running the World, HE is.

    It is important to remind ourselves that we don't control all the

    variables in the world. God does. He is the Wise, the All-Knowing.

    Sometimes our limited human faculties are not able to comprehend His wisdom

    behind what happens to us and to others, but knowing that He is in control

    and that as human beings we submit to His Will, enriches our humanity and

    enhances our obedience (Uboodiah in Arabic) towards him. Read the story of

    the encounter of Moses with the mysteries behind God's decision (Quran:

    18:60-82). Familiarize yourself with God's 99 Names, which are also known

    as His Attributes. It is a powerful way of knowing Him.

    "God-there is no deity save Him, the Ever-Living, the Self-Subsistent Fount

    of All being. Neither slumber overtakes Him, nor sleep. His is all that is

    in the heavens and all that is on earth. Who is there that could intercede

    with Him, unless it be by His leave? He knows all that lies open before men

    and all that is hidden from them, whereas they cannot attain to aught of

    His knowledge save that which He wills them to attain. His eternal power

    overspreads the heavens and the earth, and their upholding wearies Him not.

    And He alone is truly exalted, tremendous." (Quran 2:255).

    The Prophet recommended reading this verse, known as Ayat al kursi, after

    each prayer, Allah's peace and blessings be upon him. Once Ali, may Allah

    be pleased with him, approached the Prophet during a difficult time and he

    found the Prophet in Sajda, where he kept repeating "Ya Hayy Ya Qayyum",

    words which are part of this verse.

    7. Birds Don't Carry their Food

    Allah is al Razzaq (the Provider).

    "How many are the creatures that carry not their own sustenance? It is

    Allah Who feeds them and you, for He hears and knows all things (Quran


    By reminding yourself that He is the Provider, you will remember that

    getting a job or providing for your family in these economically and

    politically challenging times, when Muslims are often the last to be hired

    and the first to be fired, is in God's Hands, not yours. As Allah says in

    the Quran:

    "And He provides for him from (sources) he never could imagine. And if

    anyone puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is (Allah) for him. For Allah

    will surely accomplish His purpose. Verily, for all things has Allah

    appointed a due proportion (Quran 65:3).

    8. God controls Life and Death

    If you fear for your physical safety and security, remember that only

    Allah gives life and takes it back and, that He has appointed the time for

    it. No one can harm you except if Allah wills. As He says in the Quran:

    "Wherever you are, death will find you out, even if you are in towers built

    up strong and high!" (Quran 4:78).

    9. Remember that life is short

    It's easy to get caught up in our own stress and anxiety. However, if we

    remember that our life is short and temporary, and that the everlasting

    life is in the Hereafter, this will put our worries in perspective.

    This belief in the transitory nature of the life of this world reminds us

    that whatever difficulties, trials, anxieties, and grief we suffer in this

    world are, Insha Allah, something we will only experience for a short

    period of time. And more importantly, if we handle these tests with

    patience, Allah will reward us for it.

    10. Do Zikr, Allah, Allah!

    "... without doubt in the remembrance (Zikr) of Allah do hearts find


    (Quran 13:28).

    If you commute, use your time in Zikr. Pick any Tasbeeh and do that instead

    of listening to the radio or reading the newspaper. Maybe you can divide it

    up between Zikr and planning. Personally, I recite the Tasbeeh of "Subhana

    Allahe wa be hamdihi, subhan Allahil Azeem" 100 times as I drive. The

    Prophet taught us these two short phrases which are easy to say but will

    weigh heavy on our scale of good deeds in the Hereafter.

    When your heart feels heavy with stress or grief, remember Allah and

    surround yourself with His Zikr. Zikr refers to all forms of the

    remembrance of Allah, including Salat, Tasbeeh, Tahmeed, Tahleel, making

    supplication (Dua), and reading Quran.

    "And your Lord says: 'Call on Me; I will answer your (prayer)..." (Quran


    By remembering Allah in the way He has taught us to, we are more likely to

    gain acceptance of our prayers and His Mercy in times of difficulty. We are

    communicating with the only One Who not only Hears and Knows all, but Who

    can change our situation and give us the patience to deal with our


    "Remember Me, and I shall remember you; be grateful to Me, and deny Me


    (Quran 2:152).

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    11. Relying on Allah: Tawakkul

    When you awaken in the morning, thank Allah for giving you life after that

    short death called sleep. When you step out of your home, say 'in Your Name

    Allah, I put my trust in Allah, and there is no power or force except with

    Allah' (Bismillahi Tawakal to al Allah wa la hawla wa la quwwata illa

    billah). At night, remember Allah, with His praises on your lips.

    Once you have established a plan you intend to follow through on to deal

    with a specific issue or problem in your life, put your trust in the most

    Wise and the All-Knowing.

    "When you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allah" (Quran 3: 159).

    Rely on Allah by constantly remembering Him throughout your day. When you

    lay down to sleep, remember that sleep is death. That is why one of the

    recommended supplications before going to sleep is "with Your (Allah's)

    Name I die and become alive".

    12. Connect with other human beings

    You are not alone. Muslims are not alone. We are not suffering in silence.

    There are millions of good people who are not Muslim with beautiful hearts

    and minds. These are people who have supported us, individually and

    collectively, post-9/11, by checking up on us and making sure we are safe.

    These are individuals and organizations who have spoken up in defense of

    Muslims as we endured harassment and discrimination.

    We must think of them, talk to them, connect with them, and pray for them.

    Through our connections, we will break the chain of isolation that leads to

    depression and anxiety.
    13. Compare your dining table with that of those who don't have as much as

    you do

    The Prophet said: Whenever you see someone better than you in wealth, face

    or figure, you should look at someone who is inferior to you in these

    respects (so that you may thank Allah for His blessings) (Bukhari, Muslim).

    Next time you sit down to eat, eye the table carefully. Check out the

    selection of food, the quality, the taste, the quantity, and then think of

    the millions of others who don't have even half as much. The Prophet's

    Hadith reminds us of this so that we can appreciate and thank God for all

    that we have.

    Also remember that the Prophet only encouraged us to compare ourselves to

    others in two respects: in our Islamic knowledge and level of belief in God

    (Deen). In these two areas, we should compare ourselves with those who have

    more than what we do.

    14. Say it Loud: Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar: Takbirat & Adhan

    Find a corner of a lake, go out in the wilderness, or even stand on your

    lawn at your home and call the Adhan with your heart. While driving,

    instead of listening to the same news over and over again, say Allahu Akbar

    as loudly as you can or as softly as you want, based on your mood. Year

    ago, I remember calling Adhan on a Lake Michigan shore in Chicago after

    sunset as the water gushed against my knees. I was calling it for myself.

    There was no one else accept the waves after waves of water with their

    symphony. It was relaxing and meaningful. Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar.

    15. Pray in congregation (Jamat)

    Pray with other people instead of alone. If you can't pray all five

    prayers in congregation, at least find one or two prayers you can pray with

    others. If you are away, establish Jamat in your own family. During the

    Prophet's time, even though the Muslims endured great persecution,

    including physical beatings, they would sometimes meet on the side of a

    mountain or valley and tried to pray together. This is a great morale

    16. How is your Imam's Dua?

    Does the Imam at your local mosque make Dua silently or out loud? Ask him

    to supplicate with the whole congregation. Suggest Duas for him to make.

    Ask him to make Dua for other people.

    17. Work for the Unity of Muslims

    Bringing Muslims together will not only help the Muslims, but it will also

    encourage you to focus your energies on something constructive versus

    zeroing in on and consistently fretting about difficulties you are going


    Invite Muslims from other ethnic groups to your functions. Visit Masjids

    other than yours in your city. When you meet a Muslim leader, after

    thanking him for his efforts, ask him what he is doing for Muslim unity.

    Ask Imams to make Dua for this. These are just small ways you can help

    yourself and the Muslim community.

    18. Sleep the way the Prophet slept

    End your day on a positive note. Make Wudu, then think of your day. Thank

    Allah for all the good things you accomplished, like Zikr and Salat. Ask

    yourself what you did today to bring humanity together and what you did to

    help Muslims become servants of humanity. For everything positive, say

    Alhamdu lillah (Praise be to Allah). For everything negative say

    Astaghfirullah wa atoobo ilayk (I seek Allah's forgiveness and I turn to

    You [Allah]). Recite the last two chapters of the Quran, thinking and

    praying as you turn on your right side with your hand below your right

    cheek, the way the Prophet used to sleep. Then close your day with the name

    of Allah on your tongue. Insha Allah, you will have a good, restful night.

    19. Begin the Day on a Positive Note

    Get up early. Get up thanking God that He has given you another day.

    Alhamdu lillahil lazi ahyana bada ma amatana, wa ilaihin Nushoor (Praise be

    to Allah Who gave us life after death and unto Him will be the return).

    Invest in an audio tape driven alarm clock so you can get up to the melody

    of the Quran. Or Let Dawud Wharnsby's joyful notes put you in a good mood.

    Sing along if you like. Develop your to do list for the day if you didn't

    do it the night before. Begin with the name of Allah, with Whose name

    nothing in the heavens or the earth can hurt you. He is the Highest and the


    (Bismillahillazi la yazurru maa ismihi shaiun fil arze wa la fis samae,

    wahuwal Alee ul Azeem).The Prophet used to say this after every Fajr and

    Maghrib prayers.
    20. Avoid Media Overexposure: Switch from News to Books

    Don't spend too much time checking out the news on the radio, television

    or internet. Spend more time reading good books and journals. When you

    listen to the persistent barrage of bad news, especially relating to

    Muslims nowadays, you feel not only depressed, but powerless. Cut down

    media time to reduce your stress and anxiety. It's important to know what's

    going on but not to an extent that it ruins your day or your mood.

    (similarly, when you are in a sad mood, refrain from wallowing and

    listening to sad songs)

    21. Pray for Others to Heal Yourself.

    The Prophet was always concerned about other people, Muslims and

    non-Muslims, and would regularly pray for them. Praying for others connects

    you with them and helps you understand their suffering. This in itself has

    a healing component to it. The Prophet has said that praying for someone

    who is not present increases love.
    22. Make the Quran your Partner

    Reading and listening to the Quran will help refresh our hearts and our

    minds. Recite it out loud or in a low voice. Listen to it in the car. When

    you are praying Nafl or extra prayers, pick it up and use it to recite

    portions of the Quran you are not as familiar with. Connecting to the Quran

    means connecting to God. Let it be a means to heal your heart of stress and

    worries. Invest in different recordings of the Quran and their


    "O humanity! There has come to you a direction from your Lord and a cure

    for all [the ills] in men's hearts - and for those who believe, a Guidance

    and a Mercy"

    (Quran 10:57).

    23. Be thankful to Allah

    "If you are grateful, I will give you more" (Quran 14:7).

    Counting our blessings helps us not only be grateful for what we have, but

    it also reminds us that we are so much better off than millions of others,

    whether that is in terms of our health, family, financial situation, or

    other aspects of our life. And being grateful for all we have helps us

    maintain a positive attitude in the face of worries and challenges we are

    facing almost daily.

    24. Ideals: ONE STEP AT A TIME

    Ideals are wonderful things to pursue. But do that gradually. Think,

    prioritize, plan, and move forward. One step at a time.

    25. EFFORTS not Results Count in the Eyes of Allah

    Our success depends on our sincere efforts to the best of our abilities.

    It is the mercy of Allah that He does not demand results, Alhamdu lillah.

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    so true
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