Dowry- "a social curse"
DOWRY- "A SOCIAL CURSE"
Maulana Muhammad Naseer ul Qadri
WHY AND HOW THE CUSTOM OF DOWRY WAS INTRODUCED?
In India, considering that a woman had no share in heritage, she was given a few luxuries and furniture and jewellery as dowry but it was nominal and did not create problems. On the other hand, Islam does give share to women in heritage. Dowry became a part of the wedding ceremony, just like giving gifts to the bride. In the 13th and 14th century, dowry appeared as a compulsory part of marriage in Rajpootana and in the 19th century it turned into a punishment for the parents of the bride. The concept of marriage without dowry became impossible and it crushed low-income strata and the market value of boys kept on increasing and to be a son in law became a business.
ISLAMIC CONCEPT OF DOWRY
According to Qur'anic principle eating some one else's money is prohibited. Unjust demands of dowry are also assessed in this context. There is no concept of demanding any thing without payment, the Qur'an says:
"Do not eat each other's money unfairly". On another occasion the Qur'an says, "O believers! Consume not unjustly property of one another"(Al-Nisa verse 29)
So it is clear that the Qur'an does not approve of unjust demands of a heavy dowry. If a girl's parents want to offer some thing to their daughter then it is permissible.
But the groom or his family can never demand any thing or force the bride's family to give dowry, it comes under a type of bribe and bribery is not allowed in Islam. As according to one hadith, "One who takes a bribe or gives a bribe, both will go to hell".
So, it is clear that such demands of dowry or exhibition of wealth of the girl's parents is like bribing one another.
CLARIFICATION OF A DOUBT ABOUT DOWRY OF HAZRAT FATIMA Radiallahu Anha
On the occasion of the wedding of the daughter of our Prophet sallalaho alaihe wasallam, some clothes and perfumes were bought for Hazrat Fatima radiallahu anha, but it was not dowry, because our Prophet (sallalaho alaihe wasallam) ordered Hazrat Bilal radiallahu anhu to sell the armour of Hazrat Ali radiallahu anhu, and then that money was used to buy things for Hazrat Fatima radiallahu anha. So remember Rasool Allah sallalaho alaihe wasallam did not pay for them and he did not give any thing to any other daughter.
Islam is a complete code of life that does not increase problems in life for its followers but rather facilitates their lives by introducing principles of moderation, simplicity and fairness in personal and social life, in loneliness and in a crowd, in war and peace. It guides and polishes all spheres of life as no new religion will come and Islam is dynamically perfect until the day of judgement offering a sane economic structure based on quality justice and integrity.
THE TRAGIC REALITY
The curse of the dowry has pushed us in the era of infidels who used to bury their daughters. Alas! Innocent daughters who have been declared by our Prophet sallalaho alaihi wasallam as a blessing are now considered a burden. No one greets the birth of a daughter. When she enters adulthood +++ual wolves are there to threaten her grace and on the other hand questions of her marriage becomes an issue even among neighbours. The daughter of poor parents becomes a target for everyone's daggers of eyes and tongue. Many burned themselves and many committed suicide.
WHO IS THE CULPRIT?
Do we ever think who is the culprit behind this curse of the dowry? In olden times family nobility was preferred and people used to consider how religious and modest is the girl. Now people see status and wealth no matter whether it came from fair or unfair means. The sanctity of matrimonial bond that Islam based on mutual love, respect and understanding has corroded into mere business of dowry rather than the daughters themselves. Tears of mothers, helplessness of daughters and sisters question the so-called gods of society and protest against injustice and cruelty, but do we have sympathetic hearts of real Muslims to listen to their silent cries.
Are we ready to follow the golden principles of Islam? The buds of youth of many virgins fade without blossoming and they keep waiting at the doorstep of their parents.
May Allah soften our hearts and may we be able to follow humanitarian principles of Islam. Ameen.
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